Dad, it’s safe. It’s safe to have sex whilst your partner is pregnant. We don’t know who invented the myth, but no your penis will not poke the baby! Here’s a heads up, if your partner has just given you the great news of a pregnancy, a study showed that 54% of woman say that their libido dramatically decreases during the first trimester due to exhaustion and nausea so be sure to postpone your needs and provide support where appropriate. Here are 5 things to take into consideration when having sex during pregnancy to ensure pleasant and safe sessions.
Discover suitable positions
We asked some women and the general feedback is that penetration from the back or the woman on top is both comfortable and satisfying whilst pregnant which we know is great news. Spooning is also nice, everybody enjoys a good spoon. However, be sure to ask your partner what she likes as every woman is different and go from there. You may also realize that your partner’s libido has increased in the second and the beginning of the third trimester and again, this great news. It’s just a happy time, enjoy it!
Discuss this topic with a doctor. Also, if you think you or your partner have an STI, things can be done to minimize the risk of the infection spreading to your baby as this is the last thing you want. In most cases it’s safe to go ahead but why would you risk it without an official thumbs up? Even if you think you’re right and rain, have yourself tested anyways.
Understand the limits.
Remember, your partner is pregnant and so do not expect the same high energy performance that you would otherwise be used to. Be patience and constantly communicate. “Is that ok?” “Are you comfortable” should do the trick. In addition, it’s better to avoid anal sex, you do not want to run the risk of contamination as this may harm the baby and we do not want that. There are many facts regarding sex during pregnancy and you’ll do well to research them.
Understand the facts
Sex is, for the most part, safe during all stages of pregnancy. However, if you and your partner have a history of miscarries you may want to avoid sex altogether for at least the first three months. Sex can continue all the way up and till your partner’s water breaks as long as she is comfortable to do so. Expect fluctuations in desire, this is normal and does not mean she is attracted to you any less. Stop and see your doctor immediately if there is any vaginal bleeding.
Use this time to really bond with your partner. You can maintain intimacy without even having sex. You can do this by giving your partner a full body massage, dance together, taking a bath together or cooking together. No matter what it is, do it together and share this sacred period. If this is your first child, you may see your partner in a different light. Tell her how you feel about her, open up and connect on a higher level.
Sex during pregnancy can be a scary thought for some couples. With the right guidance and some experimental sex during pregnancy can be just as enjoyable.