Preparing your home for your new baby doesn’t have to be hard, even though there are dangers everywhere in your home from fireplaces to colourful wires, if you prepare early and protect your baby from any possible hazards it will be very straightforward. Here are 5 tips on how to prepare your home for your baby.
Soften hard edges
Coffee tables and TV stands and any other under the knee hard edge furniture may look fine to you but to a baby it’s a disaster waiting to happen, to stop your baby from a bad bump to the head by covering hard edges with safety edges and corner guards. Or you could get rid of any hard-edged furniture in your home however you would be wasting the money you spent so safety guards would be an easier option.
Cover electrical sockets
Your baby has their own toys however they would prefer to play with the wires and sockets in the house. Your baby will often see you plug electrical items into sockets and may want to copy you (I know, very cute) However it won’t be very cute if they were to electrocute themselves, to prevent this you can purchase electrical outlet caps, these covers are made out of plastic and go directly into the socket.
Block the stairs
Stairs can be very dangerous to babies; however, it is easy to make sure stairs are not a hazard to your baby. Baby gates are one of the best baby proofing options, there are many different baby gates which are designed to suit your household needs and preferences. Make sure to measure the area you want to block off, as well as measuring the area to measure your baby’s height too. Don’t underestimate your baby’s ability to get over the gate.
Lock kitchen cupboards and draws
Your little explorer will go anywhere and everywhere in your house, making sure your kitchen cupboards and draws are locked away from your baby is so crucial, Chemicals and medicines are stored in kitchen cupboards and other harmful items are stored in kitchen cupboards such as knives, forks and scissors, they can also shut their little fingers in draws when opening and closing them so please be mindful of this and put preventatives methods in place.
Install a toilet lock
Going to the toilet is a normal everyday thing for us adults but not for babies. Installing a toilet lock can prevent your child from falling in the toilet, drinking the toilet water and dropping things in the toilet. However, you and other family members will have to get into the habit of locking the toilet after using it, no more leaving the toilet seat up! It’s also a good idea to hide the toilet brush!
It may feel overwhelming preparing your home for your baby, however, with the right changes your baby will be safe and sound in your home. Safety first bro!
So, labour has started, what do you do? Whatever you do don’t panic, it will make your partner panic and that’s the last thing you need, your partner needs to be calm relaxed and most importantly prepared. 5 things to do when she goes into labour.
Call the midwife
Call your midwife as soon as your partners labour begins, your midwife or the hospital will tell you when to come in (If you are having your baby at the hospital) When you get to the hospital your midwife will check your partners blood pressure, temperature and pulse, check the baby’s heartbeat and feel your partners stomach to see which way your baby is lying and to check the size of your baby. Make sure you have a change of clothes for both of you. You don’t know how long this is going to last.
Encourage your partner to move around
Movement can help your partners labour progress and relieve discomfort. Moving around can be the tool to manage the pain. Walking can help move the baby’s head into the pelvis. Encourage your partner to walk around the room, and if she feels comfortable to try walking up and down some nearby stairs. If your partner is in a lot of discomfort refrain from asking her to move around.
Practice breathing with her
During the stress of labour, it is very common for your partner to forget her breathing techniques, so this is where all the antenatal classes come into play (hopefully you’ve attended), breath with her, it will help calm any anxiety she might be feeling especially if she is a first-time mum. At the beginning and end of each contraction tell her to take a deep breath, this will also help provide more oxygen for your baby.
Don’t deny her pain relief if she really wants it
Prior to labour the two of you have probably discussed pain relief. Some mothers tell their partners not to let them have pain relief such as epidural no matter how bad the pain becomes. Some mothers think they will need pain relief before labour. It’s a good idea to come up with a safe word with your partner so you know she is being serious about needing pain relief.
Sit back and enjoy
Even though labour seems like it lasts forever, it will all be over before you know it. So, it’s important you and your partner take deep breaths and be ready for what’s about to come, you are about to meet the new little love of your life. Be supportive of your partner and keep her as calm as possible and assist where you’re needed.
Dad, we hope after reading this your more prepared. Because of its uniqueness, this process is promised to always be overwhelming. Here’s the best advice, make sure you’re there.
Many Dads feel anxious about talking to their children about sex. It’s the most natural thing you can engage in on this earth but still, we feel awkward. How should you go about it? How much information is too much? As a parent, you have a responsibility to educate your children on sex. The birds and the bees talk are one that parents often put off for as long as possible. But learning about sexuality is a normal part of child development.
Cover the basics
For children, there is a lot of curiosity due to lack of knowledge. When young children start to interact with other children on a daily basis you should make it a priority to inform and remind your child that they have private parts that nobody should be touching but themselves but mummy and daddy. Allow your child the freedom and a safe space to come to you immediately if something doesn’t feel right or they want to know more information. Tell your child if they experience any unwanted touching that this is not normal and should tell you immediately.
Tell the truth
In most school curriculums sex as a way to reproduce is often at the forefront so you may only want to briefly reinforce what they probably already know. As a parent, you need to talk to your child about the real-world reality. Of course, this is age sensitive but it’s your job to talk about the following topics: Relationships, porn, sexual health, sexual orientations and bodily changes. For example, “You will get your period every month and you will bleed from your vagina and this is totally normal.” Try to have these types of conversations before they happen.
Chances are, your child is asking these questions is because they are now mature enough to know the answer. We understand it can be awkward for you as a parent but try to use everyday opportunities to discuss sex. We have found that men like to discuss sex in cars with their children because of the absence of direct eye contact which makes the whole topic easier to discuss. Bedtime is also a good time just before you tuck them in and make it your business to openly ask and answer questions.
Ask what they have heard
This is a very important step, you must continually ask this question to track what stage they are at in maturity. When your children are with their friends they talk about this stuff. Stuff that may make you a very concerned parent. However, by asking what they have heard you will be able to give holistic answers that are measured alongside their maturity. Failing this step, you will create a false sense of accomplishment within yourself as you will not know your child as well as you think you do.
Answer the question
“Dad, I saw two girls kissing at the bus stop. I thought only boys and girls kiss?” Children are very intuitive and it’s your job to provide clarity to help navigate the world in which we live. “There is two types of love, family and friend love and the other love. They were kissing because they are in the other love.” Depending on how old they are, this answer should do. However, after answering be sure to ask if you answered their question. Explain further until they are satisfied.
Dad, this is never an easy topic to discuss, especially with Daughters. However, as a parent, it is your duty to be open, honest and informative. Good luck bro!
For some, having a conversation with your partner about sex can be uncomfortable. Especially, if things are not flowing like they once were. If you are someone whose sex drive is off the charts compared to your partners, you may need to have a long think about how you’re going to deal with this. Generally speaking, men have the higher drive, so we write this assuming you’re the one with the high libido. You must understand, you are equally responsible for how this (fore)plays out.
If you’re not doing this already, this may be a good time to start. Masturbation helps to release sexual tension, reduce stress and helps you sleep better. We know right, ninth wonder! If you’re already a seasoned veteran at masturbation we’re very sorry as this tip may not suffice. But you’ll be pleased to know that there are also products available that provide an enhanced version of your hand. (Not that we’ve tried or anything) Has anyone heard of Flashlight?
Touch without expecting
When was the last time you kissed your partner properly just because? We’ll wait. How about a hug without ulterior motives? Woman especially can get very frustrated that their partner only touches them as a means to have sex. Doing this on a constant basis can really turn your partner off. You’ll do well to take this point on board and hold hands once in a while, even a forehead kiss. Something, anything!
Look from a bird’s eye view
Sometimes we’re stuck in our own heads that we fail to look at the situation from above. Ask yourself, is the environment a breeding ground for sex. Is life good? Is your partner happy? Are you happy? When the blood rushes down below people can struggle to see the situation for what it is. Try your best to create a thriving environment to engage in such an intimate activity.
Spark other parts
Gary Chapman wrote a book called “the five love languages” and essentially what it says is that people receive love in five different ways: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service and physical touch. Understanding and implementing these five love languages will help you to holistically love your partner.
Still nothing? Speak your mind.
If you’re at this point, we empathize that you’re on edge. You may be seriously thinking about having an affair. Before you go committing adultery, we suggest that you savagely say what’s on your mind. Do not hold back on your thoughts regarding this topic. Tell your partner what you’re considering if your needs are not met. This will do one of two things: One, cause your partner to wake up and pay close attention. Or two, tell you the actual reason why things are like the way they are and if it’s the latter you may discover that you’re at fault and can work to rectify issues. Win-win.
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Patience is a virtue, have it if you can. That old saying stands true when discussing sex after childbirth. Resuming you and your partner’s sex life will take some time. Whilst the internet says you can return to “freaky-deaky” after four to six weeks, the reality is that most women need more time. Do well to remember what comes next and you’ll be fine: You. Did. Not. Push. A. Baby. Out. Of. Your. Vagina. So, now that’s cleared up we shall provide 5 ways to navigate sex after childbirth.
Concentrate on your baby
Congratulations, you have a baby! Take the time to know your child and create a manful relationship with them. Chances are, it’s a busy time and there are lots to do with the arrival of your little one. Whilst allowing your partner to rest up, be sure to alleviate the majority of the tasks from your partner. Let fatherhood run riot. Change nappies, wake up at ungodly hours and own morning feeds. These are all ways in which you can contribute to the development of your child.
Understand libido may be low
It’s both common and understandable that will be low weeks or even months after delivering a baby. Your partner is likely to still be sore down below. We advise that you and your partner wait until the six-week check and get given the go-ahead by a doctor. Use this time to connect in other ways, read to each other, cook together, play together. Your partner will appreciate that you are sparking other parts of them their brain.
Reassure, Reassure, Reassure
Your partner may feel body conscious, you must remind her that your baby is here because of her blood sweat and tears and more blood. This is a beautiful thing and her strength and perseverance must be celebrated. It takes around two months for your partner’s uterus to return to normal size so communicate that things will be normal again and that you’re eternally grateful. Reassure your partner that they are more beautiful than ever and the love you have for them is that at an all-time high. These small words of affirmation will work wonders. Be sure to be authentic obviously.
Understand the facts
To name a few, excessive sweating may occur, the breast may be sore and heavy, breast milk tastes sweet, post-pregnancy may cause vaginal dryness so be sure to have water-based lubricant close to hand, intercourse may be painful, vaginal discharge presents itself in the form of blood and what is left of the uterus linen and… good old fashion back pain. Empathy dad, empathy.
Relationships are and forever will be your biggest asset. Navigate each day with your mind and your communication skills. Create an environment that breeds communication and both and your partner will thrive and raise your child in a safe space. In short, speak to your partner and support their needs.
Speaking to your partner about sex can be a sensitive topic for some couples, especially after childbirth however with patience, reassurance and communication easing back into sex with your partner will be a lot easier, just give it time bro.
Your partner is always busy at work, you’re always busy at work. So, what do you do? Many couples find it hard to keep the spark and romance in their relationship after having children so you’re are not alone but there are a few things you should know before you try to spice things up. This post will tell you what you need to know to make sure you keep the romance alive and bring you back to the beast you once were! *Wolf howl*
Everybody loves getting things at work. The delivery person comes in and everyone stares waiting to see who gets the goodies. Sending your significant other a gift “just because” keeps the fire burning. Send a bouquet of roses or a box of chocolates with a card. It only takes a little bit of money for this big gesture of appreciation. Other ideas include a surprise date night or stay in and cook a romantic meal for the two of you.
Have more sex
This is just a no-brainer and best of all it’s free. Try out new sexual positions there are many innovative sex positions out there, now I know you think you may have done them all, but we are certain you haven’t. Always ask your partner before introducing something new and obviously never pressure your spouse into doing something. Ideas could include: watch porn together, try anal sex, use a sex toy, try role-playing, talk dirty to each other or simply buy your spouse some lingerie (your spouse will love it). The bedroom is a comfortable and convenient place to have sex with your spouse however you can always mix it up. Kitchen worktop? Disabled toilets? A private swimming pool? On a beach or a plane. Wild we know but this stuff is not just for the movies.
Tell your spouse what you like and encourage them to do the same. Communicating with your spouse about what you like sexually is important. Talk frequently and honestly with each other about sex, if the sexual intimacy in your marriage is lacking do not ignore the situation. Address it by discussing your feelings and do not come from a place of blame. This is likely to go down a bad for you both you and your spouse, treat this as the sensitive topic that it is. Sweeping sexual issues under the rug will only make them worse over time.
Grooming will change the appearance of your pubic area. It will not only be visually pleasing to your spouse’s eyes but will create different sensations as well. Shower before and after, when you feel clean you feel even more confident and well we all know that means! A human’s sense of smell is very strong and it’s never to be overlooked. Lack of good hygiene can be a turnoff. Keep clean, it’s that simple.
Don’t give up
Things might be a little awkward if you and your spouse have not had sex in a while so don’t worry if the two of you don’t get back into the swing of things straight away, it’s a process and it can take time, just make sure to communicate and respect each other. Things may not change unless you take control and make the decision to change things so get going and get flowing.
Sometimes it’s hard to go back to the way things used to be, but that doesn’t mean it never will, keep trying at it and be spontaneous, your partner will appreciate it!
Dad, it’s safe. It’s safe to have sex whilst your partner is pregnant. We don’t know who invented the myth, but no your penis will not poke the baby! Here’s a heads up, if your partner has just given you the great news of a pregnancy, a study showed that 54% of woman say that their libido dramatically decreases during the first trimester due to exhaustion and nausea so be sure to postpone your needs and provide support where appropriate. Here are 5 things to take into consideration when having sex during pregnancy to ensure pleasant and safe sessions.
Discover suitable positions
We asked some women and the general feedback is that penetration from the back or the woman on top is both comfortable and satisfying whilst pregnant which we know is great news. Spooning is also nice, everybody enjoys a good spoon. However, be sure to ask your partner what she likes as every woman is different and go from there. You may also realize that your partner’s libido has increased in the second and the beginning of the third trimester and again, this great news. It’s just a happy time, enjoy it!
Discuss this topic with a doctor. Also, if you think you or your partner have an STI, things can be done to minimize the risk of the infection spreading to your baby as this is the last thing you want. In most cases it’s safe to go ahead but why would you risk it without an official thumbs up? Even if you think you’re right and rain, have yourself tested anyways.
Understand the limits.
Remember, your partner is pregnant and so do not expect the same high energy performance that you would otherwise be used to. Be patience and constantly communicate. “Is that ok?” “Are you comfortable” should do the trick. In addition, it’s better to avoid anal sex, you do not want to run the risk of contamination as this may harm the baby and we do not want that. There are many facts regarding sex during pregnancy and you’ll do well to research them.
Understand the facts
Sex is, for the most part, safe during all stages of pregnancy. However, if you and your partner have a history of miscarries you may want to avoid sex altogether for at least the first three months. Sex can continue all the way up and till your partner’s water breaks as long as she is comfortable to do so. Expect fluctuations in desire, this is normal and does not mean she is attracted to you any less. Stop and see your doctor immediately if there is any vaginal bleeding.
Use this time to really bond with your partner. You can maintain intimacy without even having sex. You can do this by giving your partner a full body massage, dance together, taking a bath together or cooking together. No matter what it is, do it together and share this sacred period. If this is your first child, you may see your partner in a different light. Tell her how you feel about her, open up and connect on a higher level.
Sex during pregnancy can be a scary thought for some couples. With the right guidance and some experimental sex during pregnancy can be just as enjoyable.
Yes bro, we’re taking it here. Household bills, kids’ tuition, individual spending habits, addictions, breadwinners, resentment, and our personal favourite, blame. The general consensus (in the UK) is that we hate discussing money so today we’re going to face our fears head-on. However, there is a time and a place to have the money talk to ensure you and your significant other feel better, not worse after the conversation has ended. Here are five ways to talk with your partner about money, without sleep on the sofa.
Talk about your goals first
By talking about your goals first you will start to understand where each other’s heads are at. Assessing this stage is an integral part the discussion, by understanding your partners wants and needs, together you can both start to plan how you aim to achieve those goals together with your relationship still in tack. It may be a good idea to get them down on paper, this way you will both have something physical to revisit should you start to stray off course.
Tell the truth
The hardest thing about discussing money is being honest. We understand that by airing your dirty laundry may leave you in an extremely vulnerable space. But what’s the worst that can happen? (We can think of a few things!) You and your partner are a team and if you’re married do you remember the whole, “for richer, for poorer” speech. Yes, that still stands. Tell the truth and feel the weight lift of all your shoulders. In the reverse, respect your partner for having the strength to come clean.
Discuss both earning and spending
Bringing the bacon home can sometimes be remarkably skewed. If that’s the case it needs to be discussed. What’s expected of each party? Is the money collated into one big monthly pot? The only real luxury is time. Poor spending habits can quickly bring the status of a money talk from a discussion to full-blown argument. Speak with empathy and understanding. Your heart must not be in a place of resentment if you and your partner are to come to a healthy place regarding money.
There may come a point where your partner is not happy regarding your financial habits and they are well within their rights to voice their frustration in a respectful way. This is your chance to show your maturity, take it on the chin, understand the reactions of your actions and apologise (if you’re sorry). A sincere apology is massive for closure and doing so will allow you both to move forward. The ear to mouth ratio is two to one for a reason, listen twice and much as you speak.
Know when to pause or postpone
We’re not here to paint pretty pictures, sometimes the above is just not going to work. Wrong time or place, maybe your partner had a rough day. Either way, both parties must want to mutually discuss money. If you have said something that has rubbed your partner up the wrong way it may be time to take a break or even revisit the topic at a later date. At the end of the money talk, understand that it was a separate conversation. Try not to let this interfere with your love for each other and your children.
Rome was not built in a day dad, it’s a journey. Enjoy it.
Don’t have kids, done. We’re joking! Money continues to be a constant constraint for a lot of parents and with the ever-increasing fees that childcare embodies, saving whenever and wherever you will ensure you get the best bang for your buck. The cost of childcare varies depending on the type of childcare and your location. We also spoke to a few fathers and they all agreed that if you factor in commuting costs, it may not make financial sense for both of you to work. Grab a pen, here are 5 ways to cut the cost of childcare.
Ask your boss if it’s possible to work from home for a set period of time or a couple of days a week. Remember when asking, timing is everything. Is it a suitable time for the business? Anticipate the red flags and have a reply ready. Working from home can save a huge amount of time and money if granted. Your boss may have concerns and they do, try suggesting a trial run to see how things go. We know this is hard but if you’re successful, you’re in the money.
Work different hours to your spouse
If the opportunity permits, it may be a good idea to work different hours to your partner. This can decrease the cost of childcare as you may not need to use those services as often. Have the conversation, voicing the issue of money and plan what can be done to alleviate some of the financial burdens.
Find a father friend
Trust is the biggest thing with this one. Firstly, and this is important, make they are an actual friend and not some random bloke who once looked after a football. Tapping into your network of friends can be a big help when trying to save on childcare. Before committing to something like this, consult your partner if applicable. Like the old saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child. We say it takes a good friend to save money! Shameless plug: You can find father friends on our app.
Research the tax breaks available
If you can be bothered to dig deeper (big sigh), there are lots of things available to parents regarding childcare and the cost of it. For example, there is tax-free childcare but be sure to check the eligibility, you can also apply for a childcare grant if you’re in full-time higher education for children under fifteen or under seventeen if they have special needs.
Ask the Grandparents
As the number of intergenerational households steadily increase it’s ideal to ask the grandparents. They have a wealth of experience as they have been there and done it and are still around to tell the tale. A thriving relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren are amongst the best thing this life has to offer. Allow the satisfying bonding sessions to occur frequently, grandparents will thank you and so will your bank account. Win-win.
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Money is important, it can be your best friend one minute and your worst enemy the next. However, not teaching your children about money is doing wrong by them. Money habits are often passed down through generations. If you’ve been taught good money habits, it’s your duty to pass the information on. Like many of us, we were not taught properly and so, unfortunately, history is on course to repeat itself. But this doesn’t have to be you and more importantly, it doesn’t need to be your children. Here are five ways to teach your child about money.
For toddlers and young children, use a clear piggy bank.
Use a clear piggy bank or jar for the simple fact that it’s transparent. Motivation never hurt anyone and if you can get your child to get excited to see their money increasing, it will make it easier for them. Provide praise when they save and encourage if they stumble off course. Above all, have fun with it!
Be the example you want to see in your kids.
“Do what I say, not as I do” Please don’t be this Dad. Whether you like or not, your little one(s) watches you. They will begin to pick up on the idea that Dad is not good with his money or on the flip side if he is great with money. Set the standard with your coins and you’ll be proud of how your children handle money in the future.
Let them do it
“Today, we’re going to the shop” Ask them to bring money but don’t tell them how much to bring. Let them pick out whatever they want and then ask them to pay for it using their money. Whilst your children are away picking, tell the cashier the lessons you’re trying to install. Most of the time, they will have the patience. Allow your children to physically past the money to the cashier after working out how much to pass over. If they don’t have enough, have the cashier kindly explain that they don’t have enough money to buy this/these items. You get the gist…
Pay them to create value
Read the subtitle to again, it doesn’t say “pay them to do a job” By all means if they do chores, reward them but don’t just create a culture where they do a job to get paid. It’s important to also spark their entrepreneurial minds. There are many ways to create value. If they have an idea that’s feasible to get behind it financially and encourage them through adversities.
Give them the responsibility
Help them to get a job. Keyword, help. Teenagers have a lot of free time and so they can spend it earning, something they love so much. Another way to add responsibility is to let them manage their own bank account. By this time, they’re young adults and so it’s time for the sugarcoating to stop. This can be a major challenge for parents especially for a relationship between and father and daughter but it’s imperative for their development.
Parenting is teaching, it’s important to have these money talks because in this world that we live let’s face it Dad, money talks. So talk to your child.