How to deal with different sex drives

For some, having a conversation with your partner about sex can be uncomfortable. Especially, if things are not flowing like they once were. If you are someone whose sex drive is off the charts compared to your partners, you may need to have a long think about how you’re going to deal with this. Generally speaking, men have the higher drive, so we write this assuming you’re the one with the high libido. You must understand, you are equally responsible for how this (fore)plays out.

If you’re not doing this already, this may be a good time to start. Masturbation helps to release sexual tension, reduce stress and helps you sleep better. We know right, ninth wonder! If you’re already a seasoned veteran at masturbation we’re very sorry as this tip may not suffice. But you’ll be pleased to know that there are also products available that provide an enhanced version of your hand. (Not that we’ve tried or anything) Has anyone heard of Flashlight?

Touch without expecting
When was the last time you kissed your partner properly just because? We’ll wait. How about a hug without ulterior motives? Woman especially can get very frustrated that their partner only touches them as a means to have sex. Doing this on a constant basis can really turn your partner off. You’ll do well to take this point on board and hold hands once in a while, even a forehead kiss. Something, anything!

Look from a bird’s eye view
Sometimes we’re stuck in our own heads that we fail to look at the situation from above. Ask yourself, is the environment a breeding ground for sex. Is life good? Is your partner happy? Are you happy? When the blood rushes down below people can struggle to see the situation for what it is. Try your best to create a thriving environment to engage in such an intimate activity.

Spark other parts
Gary Chapman wrote a book called “the five love languages” and essentially what it says is that people receive love in five different ways: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service and physical touch. Understanding and implementing these five love languages will help you to holistically love your partner.

Still nothing? Speak your mind.
If you’re at this point, we empathize that you’re on edge. You may be seriously thinking about having an affair. Before you go committing adultery, we suggest that you savagely say what’s on your mind. Do not hold back on your thoughts regarding this topic. Tell your partner what you’re considering if your needs are not met. This will do one of two things: One, cause your partner to wake up and pay close attention. Or two, tell you the actual reason why things are like the way they are and if it’s the latter you may discover that you’re at fault and can work to rectify issues. Win-win.

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